I had SUCH an awesome call with my husband and Eve Rodsky this past Friday that I’m letting myself do just a quick stream-of-consciousness rambling this week to keep you updated.
Here we are!
As I mentioned last week, through her New York Times bestseller, Fair Play, Eve Rodsky is promoting a movement where everyone counts women’s time (especially mothers) as every bit as important as their partner’s time (especially when that partner is a man).
I *did* tell her about my recent week-long “strike” and the results, so the three of us had plenty to discuss!
Honestly, I’m still wrapping my head around all the powerful insights we shared, but the main thing I want to share is that I explained to her how I tell people about this book, and they think the concept is brilliant, but when it comes to taking the time to understand the process and start putting it into place in their own household, we are just … too drained. Especially still trying to come out of this pandemic.
Her response?
- Don’t discount “the radical notion of starting small.”
- Start with delegating ONE task, normally on your plate, to your partner — giving them complete ownership of the concept, planning, and execution of it, from start to finish. (*ahem*: this means you resisting the urge to butt in)
- Tell your partner your “stories” about this task — the WHY of what it means to you to have it taken care of to a certain standard.
- Doing this may not come naturally, but studies have shown that one powerful trait of couples who thrive is a practice of sitting down and communicating with each other for as little as 10 minutes a day.
SKEPTICAL THIS CAN HELP YOU?
Let’s be honest: nobody’s got much time or patience for ANYTHING these days.
If you’re sick and tired of being in charge of what feels like ALL THE THINGS in your family, nothing is going to change unless YOU do.
So let’s get you some clarity — so you know what’s worth changing, and exactly where to start making things different as soon as possible:
#1: Have a free “60 Minutes to Solutions” consult with me.
I can personalize the “Fair Play” principles to your household’s situation, scale down your decision fatigue, and help you get clear on why it’s important to stop blocking yourself from the added time, focus, and energy you deserve.
Book it right here: https://fearlessly40.as.me/SolutionsConsult60
#2: Save the Date for the evening of Tuesday, May 18, for a “Taboo Talk” entitled “The Mother Load,” hosted by me and a dear colleague, Ladan Madresehee of the event company Leave It To Me.
It’s free — RSVP here: https://www.facebook.com/events/751878178854749
We’ll be discussing the invisible, often-unappreciated work of motherhood. Beyond venting about it or simply feeling “seen” in recent news articles, what’s a fed-up mom to do? Join us to learn what you need to decide for your OWN self before you can expect any kind of success convincing family members to pitch in.
